We don’t argue much, but I’m not going to sit here and try to convince anyone that Ben and I don’t argue at all. Part of me wonders what it would be like to be one of those couples that “don’t fight”, but another part of me wonders if that (a) exists, and (b) if that would even be healthy. Who knows? What I do know is that I don’t think arguing will ever feel…
Letting go. Of anything. Is almost never easy. And, there is so much to let go of: bad habits, articles of clothing, the books on our shelves, grudges, worries, children as they grow up, loved ones that are about to die, and relationships that no longer make sense for a variety of reasons. We will do anything, go to almost any length, to preserve our memory of how those things made us feel or the…
Ben and I have been married 11 years now. While I know that’s not that long, it is plenty long enough to know what ebbs and flows feel like in a long term relationship. The flows are certainly more “fun”: we’re getting plenty of sleep, eating clean, and drinking more tea than tequila (which is arguably not more “fun”, but feels way better the next morning). It’s also when I feel like we’re holding each…
Something I’ve been really working on with our kids is this: trying not to suppress or demonize any feelings that they experience. It’s something I never noticed in my behavior until recently. But, now that I’m making an effort to be conscious of it, I see it in my words so much. And, something that Ben and I have worked on reminding ourselves is that so much of what we say and do will subconsciously…
Yesterday’s post got me thinking about a topic very much related to gossip: how we perceive and talk about past relationships that didn’t “end well”, be it ex-boyfriends/girlfriends, jobs we’ve left or been asked to leave, or even friendships that ended in fallouts for whatever reason. Most of us, myself included, have been involved in each of these and many other similar situations in our past. I’ve been dumped, gone through a divorce, been fired,…
Gossip. None of us think we do it, but the reality is many of us are more guilty than we would like to believe. We’ve all heard the very well put quote, “What Susie says about Sally says more about Susie than Sally.” Gossiping, even to your very best friend, about someone else sends a message to the person you’re talking about that you cannot be trusted. If you’re willing to talk poorly about someone…
Here’s a little game I like to play with people I love when I want them to start making better decisions or having a healthier perspective on life and they continue avoiding all of my previous, more subtle tactics. I ask them how they would feel if I were the one doing what they were. One example is with my parents and their nutrition choices, their use of alcohol, or their unwillingness to pay attention…
When I was snuggling Harley Love to sleep last night, I said, “I love you so much, Harley Love.” She replied with, “I love you more.” “Oh, Harley Love, that’s impossible because I love you with Mommy love.” “What’s that?” “It’s a very special kind of love that is different than any other kind of love in the whole world. It’s even different than the way I love Daddy.” “Is it SECRET???” I laughed. “No,…
Most mornings during the week, Kat and I have breakfast together at home after our own individual training sessions and before we both move onto our next thing in the day. It’s the time when we dig into one another and really check in with one another. It almost feels like a little daily therapy session. As I’m making my coffee, I ask Kat how she’s doing. She looks off into the distance and says…