When I was snuggling Harley Love to sleep last night, I said, “I love you so much, Harley Love.” She replied with, “I love you more.” “Oh, Harley Love, that’s impossible because I love you with Mommy love.” “What’s that?” “It’s a very special kind of love that is different than any other kind of love in the whole world. It’s even different than the way I love Daddy.” “Is it SECRET???” I laughed. “No,…
Ever since the kids were little, I’ve always woken them up by saying with the absolute most amount of drama and excitement I’m able to muster at an early hour, “Guess what!?! Did you hear!?! TODAY is going to be the best day of your entire life!” It’s actually a great way to wake up. You’re still so foggy and vulnerable that you could be told, basically, anything and would believe it. And, while the…
I had a moment today when I was listening to someone talking to Bode and Harley Love. The person was saying goodbye to Bode and said, “Make sure you keep playing chess.” Then, Harley Love stepped up to say goodbye, and they said, “And, you just stay beautiful.” And, it dawned on me that those are the sorts of comments that drive our kids’ visions and goals and expectations of themselves. Bode is heading out…
“For every event in life,” the Dalai Lama said, “there are many different angles. When you look at the same event from a wider perspective, your sense of worry and anxiety reduces and you have greater joy.” A cold, rainy day can be viewed as miserable and depressing. Or, it can be a perfect opportunity to catch up on laundry, a great book next to a fire, or day to slow everything down and find…
Setting unrealistic expectations sets us up for disappointment. And, there are few things more unrealistic than expecting the people in our lives that are closest to us to be our everything. One person can’t, and shouldn’t, be the best listener we know, the wisest one that we go to first with all life challenges, the smartest one that we learn the most from, the best person for fashion and beauty advice, the one that makes…
Many of us are very good with being intentional about things like our workouts, our nutrition, and even our recovery. We go into a sprint interval workout knowing exactly, down to the second, where we want our splits to be. We start our day knowing exactly how many grams of macronutrients we will eat by bedtime. And, we go to sleep at a predetermined time because we know that our watch will give us feedback…
It’s really hard to understand what people are experiencing, or help them anticipate what something might feel like, if you haven’t been through it yourself. My normal training routine has been shaken up this week from swapping classes to coach and hosting some injuries that require me to modify workouts that the rest of our classes are doing. I covered Ben’s 8:30 class on Tuesday which meant I hadn’t done or seen the workout go…
The other day, Maya brought up a recent book she was reading, Tribe. She explained how it addresses the loss of strong connections that war veterans experience when they return to civilian life. While this is a great generalization of what the book really encompasses, I couldn’t help but wonder what drew her to this topic. “Maya, I’m really impressed that you chose a book that doesn’t directly have anything to do with you.” “Everything has…
Maybe I’m a hopeless optimist, because I’m definitely a hopeless romantic, but I prefer to think of people as mostly good: trying to be good friends, trying to be good spouses, trying to be good co-workers, trying to be good neighbors, trying to be good parents. Sometimes the effect isn’t what was intended, but most people are trying to be good…and, trying to find happiness. But, it’s hard, right? It’s hard to know what the…
If you’ve ever been to a party at my house, you know the drill: don’t overthink it, just show up. Our guests’ job: Wear whatever you want. Bring something to share, or bring nothing at all. Open door policy: bring whoever will help you relax and have a good time. Show up when you can, leave when you’re ready. Be respectful of our neighbors with parking. Be open and eager to meet people that you…