The Healthy Life

I like to think of things as “projects”. Just the idea of working on a “project” vs. fixing something or getting better at something sounds so much more motivating to me. Whether it’s a manual labor thing like power washing the deck or working on my fitness, changing my perspective on how I mentally approach it is actually a game changer for me. Identifying with something as a project makes me feel like I just need…

Think Identify your purpose. THINK about it. What do YOU want to do, to be? What fills YOUR soul? It’s not about what society, or even your parents, are telling you which shoes to fill. It’s about what YOU think fills your cup. And, it’s ok for that to change. It’s ok for us to want to be more than one thing in a day. And, it’s ok for us to completely change our minds…

*** For the video version of this, tune into my YouTube Channel under “Sleep: Part 9” at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCctUAXFFEJAqe8zhlzpulAg *** Fine, I’ll admit it.  Once we all went into quarantine and the responsibility of educating our young children fell upon me, I fell into a cozy little rhythm of rewarding myself for a day long of playing teacher with a nice generous glass of wine. After a week or two of this, a couple of things…

I have spent the better part of my life going through layers of phases of trying be the best: the best athlete, the best mother, the best wife…writer, homemaker, friend, dressed. The voice inside my head was always wanting more than what I was seeing in myself. I’ve wanted my kids, and even their friends, to like me the most. I’ve wanted to be the best athlete in our gym. And, I’ve spent probably my…

I’ve been doing these weekly Coaches Talks for our CFNE community, and my specialty in the rotation is on sleep. My YouTube Channel holds all 7 of my recent Sleep talks, but HERE is the one that is linked to this post. That’s not to say I’m a “sleep specialist”, although the title “sleep doctor” does make me sound far more intelligent than I could ever be. It just means that my talks a couple…

Ever since the kids were little, I’ve always woken them up by saying with the absolute most amount of drama and excitement I’m able to muster at an early hour, “Guess what!?! Did you hear!?! TODAY is going to be the best day of your entire life!” It’s actually a great way to wake up. You’re still so foggy and vulnerable that you could be told, basically, anything and would believe it. And, while the…

I had a moment today when I was listening to someone talking to Bode and Harley Love.  The person was saying goodbye to Bode and said, “Make sure you keep playing chess.” Then, Harley Love stepped up to say goodbye, and they said, “And, you just stay beautiful.” And, it dawned on me that those are the sorts of comments that drive our kids’ visions and goals and expectations of themselves. Bode is heading out…

“For every event in life,” the Dalai Lama said, “there are many different angles. When you look at the same event from a wider perspective, your sense of worry and anxiety reduces and you have greater joy.” A cold, rainy day can be viewed as miserable and depressing. Or, it can be a perfect opportunity to catch up on laundry, a great book next to a fire, or day to slow everything down and find…

Setting unrealistic expectations sets us up for disappointment. And, there are few things more unrealistic than expecting the people in our lives that are closest to us to be our everything. One person can’t, and shouldn’t, be the best listener we know, the wisest one that we go to first with all life challenges, the smartest one that we learn the most from, the best person for fashion and beauty advice, the one that makes…