Drama is a subject that Ben and I feel very strongly about.
It’s funny because no one I’ve ever met seeks it out; no one wants to be more dramatic, or have insanely “bad luck”.
But, there are people out there that behave a certain way (for example, complaining about something that’s happened to them), make certain choices (like gossiping or being dishonest about sharing something awkwardly private on social media), or consistently overthink things and create a reality in their head that’s really nothing more than fiction in the real world…if that even makes sense to anyone other than myself (I am, unfortunately, infamous for this one).
I guess what I’m saying is that when someone tells me that they’ve gotten roped into drama over something, I start considering the fact that they were the ones doing roping.
Two of the many things that Ben has gotten me so much better at are not complaining and avoiding gossip.
While I’m far from perfect at these two things, I’m way better than I used to be.
I’ll admit, I think it’s hard to not complain or gossip. I hate saying that, but it’s true. Complaining can feel so good at the moment, but you don’t realize how negative your world becomes in every interaction with other people: you talk yourself into reliving your bad experience, you bring the general mood of everyone around you plummet, and it’s almost inevitable that your little mini-complaint is bound to snowball into a huge bitch session about a multitude of things that have been brewing in your soul for God only knows how long.
I guess I started thinking about it this morning when I heard about Taylor Swift’s drama with Kanye. I’m not even going into the details, but it was one of the big story lines on the entertainment portion of Billy Costa’s morning report on Kiss 108. I couldn’t help but think about how this chick is constantly in the news: she’s fighting with some other singer, she’s throwing enormous parties at her mansion for her famous super-model squad of best friends, she’s going through some crazy public break-up with her celebrity boyfriend, or she’s posting enormous amounts of personal experiences on social media.
I get that she’s considered a great artist and has had huge “success” because of that, but there are a lot of celebrities that have had lots of success and have managed to stay out of the drama ring that she’s constantly getting wrapped up in.
Drama’s just an ugly thing to be attached to for something that can so easily be avoided.