Maybe it’s just because I spent much of my childhood chasing my brother and his friends around or trying to force my way into the cool kids group in college, but something I really appreciate is when someone is able to be talking to more than one person while still making everyone in the group feel like they’re included in the conversation.
I know it’s not intentional, but it’s a social skill that can either make people feel included and part of the group, or like they don’t belong and are unwanted.
It’s a simple difference, something that takes barely any extra energy, but one that goes a long way in building trust and a connection with someone: eye contact.
The basic effort of looking each person in the eyes that are within the circle of people that you’re talking to can leave a lasting impression on someone. That impression, however, can be either a positive one that makes someone feel like you care about them and their opinions on something…or, a negative one like you don’t care what they think and that you’d rather they would mind their own business.
Eyes. All people need are eyes.
Is that too much to ask?