The Good Life

Good Talkers, And Talkers Who Are Good At Not Talking

posted by Heather June 27, 2016 0 comments
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3-position snatching with the ‘ole Hanimal overseeing technique in the background.

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Well, looks like this kid would rather camp out on his floor than nap in his bed. Fine by me.

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Bode accidentally shoved Love’s skull into this ceramic pot at dinner last night. Okayyy.

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CocoWodder popsicles. Surprisingly satisfying enough to keep me safe from the naughty 3pm hour.

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Dropped off a thank you card for Bode’s friend and a book for his mom this morning on the way to CFNE.

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My friend, Bobby, sent me these pictures of Victor opening the card right after.

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HE LIKED IT!

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Dreamy little breakfast with my parents and the kids on the deck this morning 🙂 So sad they had to leave this morning 🙁

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SUCH an awesome thank you card from a sweet girl that took my class as one of our Immersion attendees last week. Thank YOU!!

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The Lorion’s got RUNNER DUCKS!!! Better them than us. That’s where we’re at right now. I’ll stop there.

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Blowin’ it up. P.S. Look at how cute my Mom is when she sits on that bench sipping her coffee. Awww 🙂

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Maya went up to start a 3-day lacrosse scouting camp at Keene State. She’s snuggling up with her buddy, Addy, who’s looking gorgeous.

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Maya: “everyone else got a sandwich OR oatmeal….no no no…you’re suppose to just get both and not have to decide!!!!”

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My Mom making her world-famous French toast, just solidifying the fact that Grandma’s are AWESOME.

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Jonah’s hair.

I almost can’t even believe I’m saying this because I am notoriously “that girl” that never shuts up, but it’s just nice when you can strike the perfect balance with someone of the perfect amount of talking.

It’s something I learned mostly from when I was on the Level 1 Seminar Staff: too much talking is often just too much.

I believe this, on so many levels now, that it’s hard for me to not notice it when it’s happening too much.

I remember when I was just starting to deliver lectures at Level 1’s and I was intimidated with being in front of a room full of people, nervous about missing any of the lecture material, and would try to make up for all of those things by just talking a lot, talking really fast, and making my best effort to fill any silences with humor and funny talk.

But, when I would watch and really study the good lecturers like Nicole Carroll, Lisa Ray, Big Todd, EC Synkowski, Pat Sherwood, Austin Malleolo, James Hobart, and Chuck Carswell, I started to realize that they were great at what they did because they did the opposite of what I was doing.

They spoke slowly and clearly.  They paused a lot to let words and ideas sink in.

They said what they had to say in as few words as possible to keep their lectures simple and straightforward.

They told funny stories, but the stories were directly related to the point they were trying to get across.  They were humorous, but not at the expense of stealing the thunder of the content they were trying to deliver.  And, they never cursed.

While some of this doesn’t really apply to casual conversation with your buddies on a day to day basis, a lot of it actually does.  Whether you’re hanging out with your best friends, your family, a group of acquaintances over a nice dinner, at a party with pseudo-strangers, or with a group of other parents at Open House night at your kids’ school, one thing is constant, in my opinion: too much is too much.

Every now and then, Ben and I talk about cool it is when you find someone who is fine with silence.  I think it’s rare, but it’s such a relief when you can “hang out” with someone, but no one needs to talk…and, no one’s walking around worrying about whether the other person’s mad at them about something, or trying to figure out why the other person’s not laughing at their subtle wise cracks, jokes, or “funny” things they’re doing.

Maybe I’m just getting old and not as much fun as I used to be, but sometimes it’s exhausting to feel like you’ve got to keep up with all of it all of the time.

I guess, sometimes, I just like people that don’t like to talk all of the time.

Again, I can’t believe I just said that…but, it’s true.

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