How did this happen?
How did ANY of this happen?
How did I, 8 years ago, end up on a beach in Cape Cod, looking in those eyes…those Ben Bergeron eyes…and, hear him promise me that he would love me forever, he would never ever leave me, he would care for me, he would raise a family with me, he would support me in anything I wanted to do in life, and that we could spend every life moment with each other until the day we die?
Life is crazy, isn’t it? Just when you think you’ve paved your path for the rest of your life, the wind changes, everyone’s paths start taking unexpected turns, and somehow…by some stroke of what I sometimes think is luck and sometimes think is what we create for ourselves…you wake up and look at the person next to you and think to yourself, “This can’t be real.”
I know that phrase is sort of cliché, but it’s something I catch myself thinking to myself more often than you would think.
Because that’s what my life with Ben is like. It’s been like that for 8 years, and I have a good feeling that it will continue to overwhelm me more and more with every sunrise, and every sunset.
It’s hard to write a post like this about what our relationship is like or how much I love him or how proud I am of how we’ve grown together over the years because there’s so much to say that it’s almost too hard to even start.
But, one thing that we’ve both learned from the so many great people we’ve met and learned from over the years is this: keep it simple.
Those three words are what make being married seem easier and easier with every year that passes.
And, the simplest quality that I think we do really well is this: trust.
We trust each others’ decisions. We trust our loyalty to one another. We trust that we are always being honest with each other. We trust that the other person is always doing their best.
We trust that no matter how hard we get hit by life or people or circumstance…we can trust that we are loved by one another.
And, man alive, do I love this man.