Being married to Ben Bergeron, and raising a family with him, is probably pretty much what you would imagine it would be: a lot of defining and redefining of family goals and values, a lot of positivity talk and very little…if any…negativity, a lot of hunting down and trying to find a better way to do things, and a constant search for opportunities to teach and learn things to make us better at being us.
I’m dead serious when I say it all like that, too. It’s the atmosphere under our roof 100% of the time. It’s just who we are.
But, it’s who we are because of who he is, who he makes us want to be, and how he understands the road to ultimate happiness is laid out for us all to follow.
I would LOVE to take credit for things like that, but I am just not that big of a person. I do feel super proud of the lives we live and the people we try to be every day, but I am only able to enjoy that feeling because of who Ben inspires me to be.
I, honest to God, wouldn’t be able to say any of that without admitting that I reap those benefits purely because of the man I am so lucky to fall asleep and wake up next to every day.
Ben Bergeron is the best thing that has ever happened to me. That steals nothing from other members of my family or the incredible people I get to call my friends; it is just an ode to a man that has been so much more than just a spouse to me.
He teaches me how to care for others, like truly care for them.
He teaches me how to be honest whether it directly affects people, or if no one is watching me.
He teaches me how to work harder than anyone around me…and, harder than I even believe I am capable of.
He teaches me the importance of reading people and so that I can relate to them in the most productive, positive way.
He teaches me what things are worthy of my time and energy, and what things I should avoid and ignore.
He teaches me what it really means to “do the right thing”.
He teaches me about what living a healthy life really means beyond exercising and eating well.
He’s shown me the endless benefits of being humble and living a life of humility.
He’s finally cracked the code on teaching me how to grow up and be able to actually communicate with people, especially him, instead of expecting people to be able to read my mind.
And, while he always tells me that I have some sort of gift of making people feel comfortable being themselves around me…I, again, would have to give him all the credit for that. I have never, in my life, met someone I can be so ‘Heather Bergeron’ around. He’s helped me both come to terms with and celebrate the things that make me who I am. And, that may be one of the best gifts I have ever received.
On March 1st every year, I celebrate Ben’s birthday as the day that this incredible, one of a kind, light in the dark came into this world. I am forever grateful to have him to share my every single day with, and love that writing his birthday post brings tears to my eyes each and every year.
Happy Birthday, Ben. I love you more than ever.