I have a huge amount of respect for people that lead more with their actions than by their words.
I know I always use Maya as an example, but she happens to be great at this sort of thing.
She’s not the one who’s always trying to call the shots, telling her teammates or friends when and/or how to do things, or trying to give them a constant feed of advice and coaching all the time.
I, personally, think those are the sorts of people I have trouble being around on a regular basis.
Maya is more like the type of leader I can’t get enough of. Her peers seek out advice from her simply because she lives an honest, thoughtful life. She knows how to sit back and listen while other people lead practices, but inspires others to raise their own bars just because of how hard she works. And, she just admitted to me yesterday that she feels like she is really starting to understand the importance of “reading people” and understanding when her friends “need” her to be there with them, versus when they just really “need to know” that she is there for them, if that makes any sense.
It takes a special sort of person to know how to do all of that stuff, but instead sit back and let someone else take that part of “leading” people over…so that they can lead people on a different level.