Loose ends are just that, they’re loose and messy and will inevitably eat away at you until you decide to finally deal with them and “tie them up”.
In some ways, it’s so much easier to just avoid awkward conversations with people that you’ve had some version of conflict with: old fights with high school friends, nasty break ups with former boyfriends and girlfriends, disagreements with co-workers or family members, or even little nothings with random people you barely ever see at the gym or your kids’ schools.
Big or small, loose ends are loose ends. But, the thing with all of them is this: the more you have, the more you create…and, likewise, the more you tie up, the less likely you are to create more.
There are few things more satisfying and that make you feel better about your whole life than when you put your big girl panties on and address an issue with someone that’s been taking up room in your sub-conscious for any given period of time.
Now, there are right and wrong ways of “dealing” with them. It’s not just a “tuck your chin and go at it” sort of thing. That’s likely to create all kinds of additional issues for yourself.
But, when you figure out the right way to deal with someone, there’s potential to change your whole life…and, theirs, too.
The real win comes when you walk away from conflict in a better position than when you got caught in it in the first place.
When you can make peace with someone and feel closer to them, feel like they respect you and your relationship with them even more, and genuinely learn how to live your life in such a way that that particular situation will never ever happen again, that’s when you’ve tied up loose ends so tight that they’re somehow stronger than the original rope they once frayed apart from.