Just about every morning, I need to remind Bode…as he completely tortures and teases Harley Love over breakfast…about how he should be behaving and treating people.
Over the almost 5 years that Harley Love has been around and, notironically, Bode has been completely torturing and teasing her, we’ve arrived at a super simple motto that he knows like the back of his hand:
“Behave in a way that makes people happy, not sad.”
I love that because it just covers so much.
Complaining makes people sad.
Compliments make people happy.
Teasing and talking about people behind their backs makes people sad.
Sharing your things makes people happy.
Turning all-the-time things into a competition makes people sad.
Helping people makes people happy.
Ignoring people makes them sad.
Asking people questions about themselves makes them happy.
Lying to people makes them sad.
Doing what your parents, teachers, and coaches ask you to do makes them happy.
We will often spend the entire car ride to school seeing how many ways we can come up with that makes the people around us happy. And, even just that makes us happy and excited to go out and keep everyone around us happier than when we found them.
And, as I find with most lessons I’m trying to teach our children, I’ve realized that all of this applies to me. When I start feeling like I’m not having the best day and can’t figure out why, I think about these words. Without fail, and regardless of what was causing the rough day in the first place, thinking like this just changes the direction I’m heading.
It’s simple. “Just make people happy, not sad.”