I drive a lot. And, when I drive a lot, I think a lot.
It’s a little scary. You know, the sort of stuff a stay-at-home mom thinks about when she’s driving…especially right around that 3pm-ish time when the whole system starts shutting down and you’ve gotta’ go to places in your head to stay in the game and not get pulled over for, literally, falling asleep waiting for a red light to turn green.
Not that that’s happened to me…in that exact situation…well, not exactly that situation.
Ok, maybe that exact situation has happened. Recently. Or, maybe it hasn’t.
Anyway, the point I was planning on getting to was that lately I’ve been spending my time in the car daydreaming about something sort of silly, but not really: who would be in our wedding if we were to get married all over again right now.
I just think it’s an interesting question, which is a lot coming from someone who’s been married twice.
There’s so many different categories of people that you could go with: the obvious siblings of your own and your spouses siblings whether you’re close with them at all or not, the childhood friends that you may or may not even talk much to anymore but you had always just assumed you’d be in each other’s weddings, the friends you are currently close with but you’re not entirely sure if you’d still be more than Facebook friends if they ever moved to another area of the country and you didn’t run into them at the 9:30 class at the gym every weekday, the couples friends that you and your spouse will surely spend vacations with for the rest of your lives but you really only see at an occasional dinner out every month or so, and then there’s the one or two golden nuggets in your life that you just couldn’t imagine not having by your side with you through one of the most important periods of your life.
Now, I’m not smothered with tons of best friends. But, when you think of that list of people and try and figure out which route you’d go, you start realizing how hard it would be if you had to make those sorts of decisions.
Ben and I were talking about this the other day and I immediately spat out a list of 5 or 6 girls that I’d choose. At first, Ben was sort of surprised by some of them; and, I was surprised that he was surprised. But, then 3 or 4 more girls popped up in my head that really should’ve been obvious choices for me and I then I had 8-10 girls on my list.
I started trimming it down until all of a sudden I realized who the women were in my life that I genuinely saw a lifetime of friendship with…and, it was really sort of nice. I don’t know, it was just nice to think about who those friends of mine would be and nice to have this all as a reminder of who I need to remember to have my focus on, who I need to prioritize in my life because they are, hopefully, in all of this with me for the long haul.
I wouldn’t dare name those women here, but they likely know who they are…because if I’m doing this friend thing right, they should know that I plan on spending the rest of my life with them 🙂