One of my favorite things about being married to Ben Bergeron is how excited he gets about monthly goals. He, honest to God, gets so fired up about the whole process: the decision making process on how to choose his goals for the month, how excited he gets about the ones he finally decides on, listening to him present them to our family and friends, and watching him just totally dial it in for the month and commit to something like his life depended on it.
Witnessing all of it in action just gets me even that much more excited about jumping in and taking part in all of the fun.
While we were camping, Ben announced to the kids that his October goal is to never have them see him on his phone.
Jonah was, literally, confused.
“Well, how are you going to answer your phone when someone calls?”
“I just won’t answer it. No phone call is as important as it is to focus on the time I spend with you.”
“What if you need to check something?”
“I’ll check it later.”
“Oh, OH, what if no one’s around and you want to do something online?”
“Well, then I can go online because you won’t be there to see me.”
And, that was that.
For the next 10-15 minutes, we went person by person talking about what our goal should be for the month. After Ben set the bar that high, none of us could get away with the ole’ “I’m going to drink 32 ounces of water a day”. Or, “I am going floss every day”.
It all got me thinking.
Last school year, I was in a good place with setting and sticking with daily rituals. My problem ended up being that I had accumulated too many. It was great having things that kept me on track every day, but…in classic style for me…I took it to the extreme and all of a sudden I caught myself with so many rituals that I was totally stressed out with trying to keep up with all of them.
But, the one that I really do miss and I think got my head organized every day was my Daily Chalkboard. It’s a big chalkboard wall that I painted in our kitchen that I started every day with. It helped me know the date every day, remember to write my daily Good Things, know what the schedule was for that day, keep a running list of grocery items we needed, and all of the things that I needed to do that day from folding the laundry to ordering the kids’ school books.
My monthly goal for October is to update the Daily Chalkboard every day this month, including weekends. In addition, I’ve asked Ben to make sure he looks it over every night and we talk about some of the stuff on it.
Look, I know I’m not the CEO of a company or anything, so on most days I can either do lot or do almost nothing at all and pretty much no one knows the difference. It’s not super motivating, and it makes it really easy to do the bare minimum just to get by.
But, even though I’m no high roller in the world, I still don’t feel good about living my life like that. I want to behave like an entire company is relying on me to absolutely kill it at the “work” I’m doing.
For me, that means studying my kids’ eating behaviors and figuring out how to help them be successful and live a healthy life. It means coming to terms with how to manage time efficiently and plan accordingly every time I need to be somewhere at a certain time…with time to spare. It means tapping into my resources for things involving my own training and nutrition so that I can have a plan in place and I am always on top of how to optimize my performance. It means dialing in on the people close to me so I know what is going on in their lives, making sure they know they can rely on me for what they need, and really knowing how best to do that on an individual case-by-case basis.
When I spent some time thinking about what my one monthly goal should be, I thought my Daily Chalkboard would be the best place for me to put all of energy into. And, I’m SO EXCITED to really get after this one this month.
What’s your October Goal going to be?