In Ben’s class today, he announced that on Monday morning we were all going to be asked to post a 2 week goal on the Goals whiteboard at CFNE. There are few things that I get more excited about than the anticipation around setting a new goal…especially, when it’s only for 2 weeks and not for 1+ months.
We’ve been putting an enormous amount of emphasis over the last year or so on the importance of sleep and spending a lot of time trying learn more about how to facilitate that with things like black out shades that we use every night instead of just weekends, blacking out the light on our alarm clock, limiting screen usage at night, etc.
For some reason, which I’ve had trouble trying to figure out, I’ve been having a lot of trouble sleeping through the night. On the heels of all of this newfound knowledge regarding just how important it is to get quality sleep, I’ve been really concerned about how this is affecting my overall health, particularly my ability to recover after training and from shoulder surgery…not to mention my general mood 😉
After class, I had a long talk with Ben and my good friend, Nicole, about my whole sleep issue. It’s not that I have trouble falling asleep, but more that if I wake up any time after 2 or 3 am, I can’t fall back asleep. Last night, for example, I woke up at 3:30 am and never got back to sleep.
When I wake up in the middle of the night like that, my head starts thinking too much about what’s coming up that day. It’s all of, what Ben and I now call, the I-have-to-remember’s.
I have to remember to get paper goods for Maya’s LAX party tomorrow.
I have to remember to reschedule my dentist appointment.
I have to remember to schedule Bode’s kindergarten screening.
I have to remember to remind Ben about taking the kids to jiu jitsu and swimming and pack the bags for him and lay out Bode’s bathing suit and put HL in hers before they leave for JJ and put something in the bag for him to do with HL during Bode’s JJ class and some snacks and drinks and remind him to give them a bath after swim.
I have to remember to go to Home Depot and Home Goods and Whole Foods and Roche Bros.
I have to remember to email NoBull about the new trainers.
I have to remember to make more cookies for the party tomorrow because Bode liked them so much and keeps eating the ones I had already made.
I have to remember to save and pack up a couple for Harry and Max because they love when I give them homemade treats.
I have to remember to pack myself a snack for after training so I have something to eat while running errands.
And, this list, literally, goes on and on and on…until Ben’s alarm goes off at 5:30 am.
Ben’s theory on why I can’t sleep is not that I’m on a screen too late at night or I’m drinking too many liquids late at night and needing to get up to go to the bathroom too much. But, that I am going to bed at night not having thought through the next day’s schedule enough to feel comfortable enough to sleep all night.
So, he told me I should, basically, micromanage my schedule instead of just writing it up in generalities. For example, instead of just writing up the kids’ activity schedule and appointments I have throughout the day, I need to go deeper and schedule in everything from when I will eat lunch, do emails, work on the laundry, take a shower, text Mike Giorgio, clean up the toys and dishes, pack up the kids’ snacks for afternoon activities, get them dressed for those activities, etc. All while leaving extra 5-10 minute buffers in the schedule for extra things that might come up unexpectedly or things that I’ve forgotten.
I decided to start it as soon as I got home. I immediately erased the schedule I had already written up and started figuring out my schedule for all of the different things that had to happen before I left for Maya’s game at 3:30 pm.
And, it worked perfectly. A couple of things got flipped around and I skipped rescheduling my dentist appointment because I needed to get my Paleo Power Meals order in and that time slot got lost in the shuffle somehow. But, I pulled into the parking lot 5 minutes early for Maya’s LAX game.
I, literally, don’t know how all of that would’ve gotten done and me get to that game on time if I hadn’t had that conversation with them this morning.
So, I’ll try it tonight before I go to bed: look at my schedule, write up something similar to what I did this afternoon, but have it be for tomorrow so that I don’t have anything to worry about in the middle of the night knowing that it’s all been thought about already…and, we’ll see how I sleep tonight.
And, I’ll bet it helps that I skipped my nightly glass of wine 😉