I hate admitting to this, but I think I’m a lot less non-judgmental than I would like to think I am.
I think there are things that are easier to be open-minded about than others: different senses of style and fashion, peoples’ attitude about being competitive, what people consider a ‘vacation’, and whether someone likes doing yoga or not.
Then, there are other things that I am horrified to admit that I have trouble accepting for some reason: people’s food and lifestyle choices when they’re already plagued with health problems, the amount of time people spend on their phones when they’re around friends & family, people that play video/computer/cell phone games…especially when they’re around friends & family, couples that regularly argue and bicker in front of others, and people that prioritize work over their families or significant others.
Oh, and people that are opposed to eating meat.
And, the one I really hate admitting to is when I catch myself judging people on how they behave with and treat their kids. Basically, parenting.
I know. It’s awful, and I don’t feel good about any of it. But, I’m trying to be honest with myself because I feel like I have spent too much of my life patting myself on the back for thinking I see the world through a judgement-free lens.
One thing that Ben and I have been talking a lot about that’s been helpful is this: people should try to find their “purpose”, and then do their best to devote their lives to fulfilling that.
I think too often, our society glorifies certain “purposes” and frowns upon others. Why is it weird if someone doesn’t ever want to have children? Why should everyone place as much importance on eating healthy and exercising as I choose to? What if people would rather spend their time connecting with the outside world than what’s in front of them? What if people can only tolerate their family so much until they have to “escape” and find peace in playing card games on their computer? And, maybe someone’s profession is more in line with their personal “purpose” than their girlfriend or even their kids?
There is certainly a lot of grey area in this topic, but I think there are a lot of situations that deserve some more consideration than writing them off as times when people just don’t “care about the right things”.
Maybe their “things” are different from our “things”.
Maybe they should be rewarded for knowing and accepting that they’re not kid-people.
Maybe many of us feel compelled to share our life with one other person, even though there are other people that would rather live their lives independent of that sort of commitment.
And, maybe it’s ok to think it’s unhealthy to eat meat.
Well, maybe that’s not ok, but they can pretend it is 😉