It’s as if someone “up there” is pushing me to bring this up. I’m getting it from all angles of my life: I’m feeling it in my own experiences, some of my best friends are going through it right now, I’m hearing it in some way from just about every Podcast I’m listening to right now, and catching the message in things I’m reading.
It’s almost as if we are put through challenging times so that we can, at some later time, help others deal with similar issues.
I’m not even touching on whether we deal with them the “right” or “wrong” way. I’m just saying that just about every single really, really hard time I’ve survived in my life has prepared me to know how to better support someone close to me going through something similar.
All of them: eating disorders and body image issues, divorces, mental depression, being homeless and having no money, miscarriages, tragic deaths, addictions, cancers. And, I know I’m not even halfway through what I’m going to get hit with.
Some of them I’ve handled pretty well, all things considered. And, others I’ve dealt with very poorly. I can count how many things I truly “regret” in my life on less than one hand, but I’ve even used those regrets as tools to help people not make the same mistakes I have. So, I guess they’re not even real regrets.
But, I have survived every one. Not only have I survived every one…but, after the dust from each one of these has settled, I have went on to live a fuller, richer life because of those very experiences.
And, I think that’s the hardest thing to remember when you’re going through any challenging time in your life: the hardship will get easier, people will forget…and, hopefully forgive, and your situation…whether it’s just within yourself or if it includes other people…will end up stronger.
I guess the only exception to that whole statement is for the people out there that fight it.
The people that resist growth and never allow themselves to find the goodness that can come from the really dark places they were caught in will miss out.
There are always people that have been through worse, have survived worse, and have made insanely great comebacks from worse situations than we could ever imagine possible.
I was reminded of this whole idea when I heard this 3 minute story this morning. In just 3 minutes, these two people changed my life.